Reparenting before Conception

Preparing for conception & pregnancy is not just about eating the “best diet”, taking supplements, doing a detox, or taking a class.

You are an onion 🧅

At birth we are born with a keen intuition. Both women and men have this. From this point on we are programmed to allow what I call “cerebral override” to dictate how we move through the world.

Accessing Intuition as a tool for expansion and love is trained out of us.

During pregnancy there is a poignant opportunity to reconnect with our intuition as the guiding light on our journey and in our expasion on a macro and micro scale.

During the labor process many women describe, what I would corroborate, as a personal death and rebirth. A portal is opened and whatever the woman has suppressed her entire life comes to the surface for re-evaluation. Most women ignore this. It manifests as anger, postpartum depression, and disillusionment with her spouse and perhaps the world at large.

Seeing aspects of herself reflected back to her by her baby will surely bring to light patterning, behaviors and trauma responses cultivated as a reaction/protective mechanism due to parental deficits and nuclear family dynamics that haven’t been resolved.

It’s the people, men and women, who say “I don’t have any issues with my parents… my childhood was perfect” that are often the ones living in such a state of denial that when their child is born into the world they are so affronted by reflections that they go deeper in suppression and traumatic response or their world gets blown open and the healing can begin.

Sometimes these schisms in our family dynamics are so buried that it manifests as physical disease and we spend a lifetime medicating, dieting and attending ayahuasca “retreats” to no avail.

There is a type of process called “Re- parenting” Reparenting is based on the belief that many psychological issues stem from a child growing up without his or her needs being met. The child is not made to feel secure and unconditionally loved, so they grow up to be an adult who can’t navigate relationships and life as well as they should. Reparenting is our personal responsibility. Anyone can begin the process of reparenting themselves. It takes time, commitment, and patience. 

The Three Aspects of Reparenting

Reparenting deals with three theoretical aspects of an individual. They are:

• Adult

• Inner Child

• Parent

The Adult is the individual today. The Inner Child is the childhood stage at which the individual was wronged. The Parent is a therapist (or an individual) who gives the right response the child should have received. Reparenting is going back to the stage in which the adult was wronged as a child, and satisfying or making peace with the inner child hidden inside. This is done by giving the satisfactory response and fulfilling the needs that were required at that time by self-counseling or therapy

Another process to consider is family constellations by Bert Hellinger. This quite possibly one of the most powerful healing modalities in existence.

Warmly,

Eyla